496 “What happened?”

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1. jackmarten says

   January 16, 2022 at 10:29 pm

   what happened dear friend, is a self centered system named suicide murder / social media, where socializing became too spread and tooo much wide, that narcistic breeding and one’s self worship became everything! when one gets too many options, they become Apathetic and ignoring. previously we used to accept and get satisfied with what we had, nowadays everyone desired what everyone else has, because nobody knows what they truly want anymore.
   humans became so much self centered that building friendships to last for years is literally impossible. unless a miracle happens

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2. Kit says

   January 17, 2022 at 1:38 am

   Your friends when you were younger were more accepting and forgiving than your friends as an adult? I guess my situation is the opposite. I felt like in middle and high school, everyone is so desperate to be “cool” and liked and there’s so much pressure to not be the weird one out, even amongst nerds. Everyone is judgmental of everyone and everyone picks on everyone.

   And then suddenly in college and as an adult, nobody cares. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

   I do agree that adult friendships are harder to maintain though. You don’t have school as a reason to see each other every day; you have to actually schedule the time to hang out. That’s a major reason why it’s harder.

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   • Anna says

     January 18, 2022 at 12:56 am

     I fully agree. My best and most loving and forgiving and accepting friends I met after high school and college. It does take more effort to see each other. That’s true.

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3. Opus the Poet says

   January 17, 2022 at 9:12 am

   When I was young I was a Cold War military brat, and people came and went every few weeks, so I never learned what real friends were. I often wondered what it felt like as a kid to have friends,

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4. Felis Dee says

   January 28, 2022 at 11:16 pm

   It’s harder because we’re not all in the same place everyday anymore as adults, so it’s hard to make a connection. You can’t make friends at work (the one place where we are forced into seeing the same people everyday as adults) either because often, there’s a lot of competitiveness and politics going on there. People aren’t interested in becoming friends with co-workers the same way they became friends with classmates.

   On top of that, people with kids have family responsibilities that make it hard to schedule things; and everyone’s work schedule is different; and it’s so hard to change routine. Heck, I remember when I first moved to Toronto, I found it so hard to make friends because it seemed like everyone I met here had lived here all their lives – so they had their established friend-groups from high school and uni. They didn’t welcome new people into their circles. It wasn’t until I had lived here a few years and found community theatre where the mentality is “everyone is family” that I started to meet people and form genuine bonds.

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