Published November 10, 2019 27 Comments
Jeffery Witman says
November 10, 2019 at 4:33 am
The paradox is real.
Evan J Sanders says
November 10, 2019 at 4:34 am
Despite wanting to be a father, I have the same fears about my depression.
Abigail Michell says
November 10, 2019 at 4:36 am
Relateable, but I gotta say that looks like a really uncomfortable way to watch a movie.
Jimmie Kaska says
November 10, 2019 at 4:57 am
I have two kids and this is my fear.
November 10, 2019 at 5:09 am
Robin and i both share the same view, letter by letter, word by word, bearing children or starting parenthood in this hell isn’t worth it, marriage nor child bearing.
the world is hell as is, people are respecting stupidity, and fighting sanity, they are romanticizing violence and death, and hating peace and harmony.
the educational system is not helping either, and living is too pricey. everything is too expensive, and honestly nothing is worth even purchasing. Robin, if my parents taught me anything through my life… is that living is not worth it. thus i’ll save my own kids the curse that is life. and never bring them into this hell. i’m being a much more responsible parent to keep them as sperms for all i care.
November 10, 2019 at 5:16 am
also before i forget, why are they laying on their bellies? it’s really hard to breathe, and it’s very uncomfortable, Yong hen is Robin’s friend, but don’t forget that Wren is Robin’s girlfriend. shouldn’t Yong hen ask that question for the couple both together? unless Wren would accept to adopt a baby with Robin. but …. with Robin’s condition .. i highly doubt it …
November 10, 2019 at 10:48 am
I must be the only person who watches TV like that.
The reason Hong Yen asks the question because being from an Asian family, it’s the kind of question that gets asked a lot. Hong Yen is Robin’s best friend, Hong Yen was introduced in the comic well before Wren was and whose purpose is to initiate conversation that doesn’t need the weight that asking it in a relationship would. Hence this is more generalized because Hong Yen is an outsider to Robin’s romantic relationships, therefore it doesn’t affect her as it would if Wren asked the question.
November 10, 2019 at 12:48 pm
You’re not alone, I watch TV like that all the time.
November 11, 2019 at 6:48 pm
Me too. Or I used to, when I had a furniture arrangement that allowed me to do so comfortably. Doesn’t look strange to me at all!
YK Greene says
November 10, 2019 at 6:11 am
Again, painfully accurate.
Jara Koul says
November 10, 2019 at 6:22 am
I had this exact same conversation with my therapist last week.
Esmerelda Bohème says
November 10, 2019 at 8:03 am
I really hope your therapist isn’t suggesting that you having kids will cure what is ailing you or make you a better person because then I would suggest you get another therapist lol.
November 10, 2019 at 4:21 pm
She’s absolutely not suggesting that.
Racheal Cooke says
November 10, 2019 at 7:10 am
I have two boys and they have fortunately dodged the bullet. My youngest could still get it once puberty hits, but I hope not.
November 10, 2019 at 8:02 am
Thanks for keeping the comics going and I look forward to reading this every time.
I’m just really tired of people asking me this every freaking day and the answer is no no I will never have children stop asking me just because I’m a female and have ovaries doesn’t mean I want kids.
Anna-Karin Uhlen says
November 10, 2019 at 9:05 pm
Yo0u are not alone. Stay at it. <3
Phil Bolton says
November 10, 2019 at 9:43 am
And with kids, you’re not really allowed to have bad days where you can’t get out of bed.
Just adopt a small dog instead.
November 26, 2019 at 12:57 am
But only if you have a yard and a dog door, so they can go outside to pee and poop on their own.
Gina Von Pierce says
June 15, 2020 at 9:19 pm
Adrian Vi wow wth. Sounds like you had kids and now can’t have bad days 😂😂😂
Kimberly Brink - Castleberry says
November 10, 2019 at 10:54 am
Yup, been there, had those convos. No way would I do that to a kiddo!
Dana W says
By the time my mom got done with me I had the emotional stability of Caligula. I know I have the same mental problems as my mom. I don’t want to pass them down. I know the only thing I’d give a child was a bad childhood. And I already had one. I don’t need to pass one down.
Reina Maxine says
November 10, 2019 at 2:46 pm
The only way I feel I could is if I could be sure said kids would be cut off from the people that are the source of my depression and suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately I foresee it at best not being entirely possible to keep them from contacting or finding me (and far too many including my own friends willing to help them out with that, based on how often they’ve either told me “they’re not that bad”, or echoed them about all the ways having children like me were a waste)
That “friend” has a really BAD conclusion IMHO. I applaud the main characters ability to reflect, reason and come to a conclusion. Having a kid when some kind of ailment is clear and present would be wrong on so many levels.
Just because “everyone else” has kids doesn’t mean one self should. Thinking two steps ahead is a good thing. And yes, we hacve been told repeatedly we’d be awesome parents but nope, NOT their choice, we made our own choices. 😉
(Happily married and childfree at 45.)
Opus the Poet says
November 11, 2019 at 5:36 pm
Thing is they’re both right. She might lack the skills, but she has the emotional intelligence to raise kids. And she would also know exactly how she was ruining their lives. That’s the part that would really kill her.
November 15, 2019 at 9:12 pm
I’ve been told the same thing countless times, that because I think and care so much for my hypothetical child, I’d be a great mom. And I know I would because despite having depression, I was a babysitter for years. It was weird, even though I was in the depths of despair most days, I’d pull myself together as best I could and care for those kids better than their own parents, sometimes. Even if I’d be a great mom and raise great kids, I just couldn’t bear the thought of passing on depression to them. And that’s on top of how the world is; that would be too cruel.
Shelley Storm Kruckeberg says
June 16, 2020 at 11:26 pm
So fucking relatable
July 15, 2020 at 9:46 am
So on point to what I feel/what people say.
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