That’s pretty much how it goes.. it’s surprising how much you can “mishear” or file under “oh, they have some hidden agenda for saying so, it’s not like they really mean it”
I used to react the same way. Sometimes I wound up overanalyzing everything people said. Does “wonderful” mean “full of wonder”? I don’t feel wonder. Is she implying I’m naïve? Maybe she meant I inspire wonder, that I make other people wonder about me. I don’t want people wondering about me. How dare they pry into my private life and judge me? Or maybe she meant I make her wonder what I’m thinking and feeling, and she’s worried about me. So she’s saying I’m a burden to her, a piece of trash she wants to throw away.
I always assume a compliment comes from obligation. Like when someone gets a haircut, you always compliment it, regardless of your actual opinions. Thus most compliments are ignored.
this!!! oh my god!!! it’s like you’ve drawn my brain!! i process positive comments the exact same way as negative ones; as long as the comment’s about me, i’m gonna be spiraling for a few days, maybe a week, so I just immediately throw it out. and the rationalizations!! I have a million ready for anyone who tries to call me attractive: they’re drunk, they just want a quick fuck, they can tell im insecure/easy, ect.
love your work xxxx
I was literally studying neurons last week for child psychology…. Scary stuff.
Hey, 311! Looks like this week, amber is the color of your energy…
… sorry, amber? I don’t understand.
Most likely a musical reference 🙂
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MSwihOwFX0Q
Aw, man. The compliments face a lot of hurdles. The gal with freckles is so good with her partner.
That’s pretty much how it goes.. it’s surprising how much you can “mishear” or file under “oh, they have some hidden agenda for saying so, it’s not like they really mean it”
My brain files compliments as suspicious statements and generates a feeling like I should be nervous about something.
I used to react the same way. Sometimes I wound up overanalyzing everything people said. Does “wonderful” mean “full of wonder”? I don’t feel wonder. Is she implying I’m naïve? Maybe she meant I inspire wonder, that I make other people wonder about me. I don’t want people wondering about me. How dare they pry into my private life and judge me? Or maybe she meant I make her wonder what I’m thinking and feeling, and she’s worried about me. So she’s saying I’m a burden to her, a piece of trash she wants to throw away.
Nothing positive ever comes out of that.
I always assume a compliment comes from obligation. Like when someone gets a haircut, you always compliment it, regardless of your actual opinions. Thus most compliments are ignored.
In my mind, after compliments trip me up for a bit, they are dismissed because they are distractions that don’t help me solve the world’s problems.
I am 18 i think a lot i think i am depressed.
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I am several years into Social Security — suspicion of compliments NEVER goes away.
this!!! oh my god!!! it’s like you’ve drawn my brain!! i process positive comments the exact same way as negative ones; as long as the comment’s about me, i’m gonna be spiraling for a few days, maybe a week, so I just immediately throw it out. and the rationalizations!! I have a million ready for anyone who tries to call me attractive: they’re drunk, they just want a quick fuck, they can tell im insecure/easy, ect.
love your work xxxx