Published July 18, 2015 39 Comments
Suzelle Stimmel says
July 18, 2015 at 6:25 am
That’s a good friend.
Jose Be says
July 18, 2015 at 6:29 am
Awwwwww, talk about all forms of love
Opus the Poet says
July 18, 2015 at 6:42 am
I love this. I have done this for some of my depressed friends, except I read web comics like that guy read the Sunday funnies on the radio back in the early part of the 20th…
Marc Singleton says
July 18, 2015 at 8:05 am
I need a friend like that on bad days, and I can be a friend like that on my good ones.
Andy Shuping (@ashuping) says
July 18, 2015 at 8:30 am
Huh, never thought of this before, but I could use it from time to time: http://t.co/1WSeUgTejh just someone’s voice would be nice.
Douglas Gean says
July 18, 2015 at 10:03 am
Sometimes, it doesn’t matter what you say.
Kavan Chay says
July 18, 2015 at 10:26 am
Em Agh says
July 19, 2015 at 1:23 am
July 19, 2015 at 9:26 am
Tonya Woolard says
July 18, 2015 at 11:46 am
Brigitte Baker says
July 18, 2015 at 12:24 pm
These are like the story of my life
Stephania Donayre says
July 18, 2015 at 1:07 pm
Jay Aoyama says
July 18, 2015 at 1:11 pm
-¡jay estuvo aquí!
July 18, 2015 at 1:12 pm
Y yo a ti, mi amigo.
Ísis Forioni Bragaia says
July 18, 2015 at 2:15 pm
Actually, the characters are in a romantic relationship according to past strips. But all forms of love are important in moments like that.
depression comix says
July 18, 2015 at 9:43 pm
I’ve been very careful to never mention their sexuality in the comic because I wanted to make it seem like their relationship is the most natural and logical thing for them.
July 18, 2015 at 9:45 pm
Most comics that feature a female couple in romantic relationship use the L word to exploit the characters, which is something I don’t want to do.
July 18, 2015 at 9:46 pm
I can delete the comment if needed. I apologize.
July 18, 2015 at 9:54 pm
Oh no, just commenting on it myself, no worries
July 20, 2015 at 11:25 pm
A romantic relationship can be about love, compassion, understanding, belonging, affection, and intimacy without any need or desire for sex. Some cultures have considered such a relationship to be a noble ideal.
July 22, 2015 at 8:39 pm
This is true, and some of my favorite relationships in stories have been close, intimate, would-die-for-each-other Platonic ideals. But it seems like our culture has pushed the boundaries of sex so strongly that it’s nigh impossible to see relationships without a sexual dynamic no matter what sort of pairing you’ve got going.
There exist, in literature and also IRL, intimate relationships where you feel free to show your true self to the other person without fear of ridicule or backstabbing, where you enjoy each other’s company and care deeply enough about them that you’d cut out of work to go help them or maybe even drop a job or a girlfriend on their behalf, or go into debt because helping them was more important than your long-term security. Those relationships are rare and special and I love seeing them explored. I wish more people were inspired to be that good to other people, so that more intimate relationships would happen naturally.
But nowadays it’s like, the more intimate the relationship, the more “obviously sexual” it has to be, and signs of intimacy are basically allowed only among siblings (and it’s not like being siblings mean no one assumes you’re in a sexual relationship). And this reads back across time, across every relationship throughout history and literature, as though sex was always a key factor to achieve intimate connection.
I doubt this would be a pet peeve of mine if it weren’t abundantly clear that any intimate Platonic relationship I write is going to be analyzed as sexual whether I ignore it (“look at the subtext!”) or address it (“the author protests too much!”) or even give the characters other romantic pairs (“beards!” or whatever). Because we’re a culture of “denial means it’s true!” And the only option open for portraying a Platonic relationship is to strictly reduce the apparent intimacy, which also reduces my enjoyment of the pairing. Ugh.
July 22, 2015 at 8:47 pm
Also, y’think depression and isolation would be less widespread, less severe, if our culture wasn’t telling us that caring deeply for other people goes hand in hand with wanting to have sex with them? That’s a strong factor on the male side (“Dude, you’re crying over his injuries? You are so —“) but it also affects male-female pairings (“Look, spending this much time with him just makes it seem like you want to date him”) and surely even female-female pairings (“You dropped out of college just to help her start up a business? Is there something you’re not telling me?”).
I know that the United States culture does have a lot of caring — a lot of charity work, a lot of people trying to ensure that the less fortunate get support systems and have someone to turn to, even a lot of movements to brighten up the days of strangers just a little bit — but sometimes it’s hard to remember that when it seems like we treat Emotion as the unwanted kid at the table, immature and mixed up with a lot of negative stereotypes.
July 18, 2015 at 3:14 pm
247 http://t.co/glzsbH2i5c via @depressioncomix
July 19, 2015 at 5:29 pm
“Sorry, I’m… just not in a talking mood… Sorry.”
via http://t.co/hRvknetHUq http://t.co/9Vq2BPGBTC
July 21, 2015 at 4:25 pm
I usually instigate these telephone calls, I phone and don’t really speak I am looking for someone else to fill in the silence with any thing so I don’t feel so alone. It helps me to take my focus away from me.
August 2, 2015 at 11:26 am
Sometimes, silence shouts louder…
than words which struggle to grasp an ever-flowing sense of meaning.
When you’re respecting, loving, or enjoying the presence (or “absence: longing for them, planning possibilities”) for someone, the meaning of your actions is self-evident in your mind but not clearly translatable, especially in cultures bent on conflict as a priority over construction, creativity, and the dances of living.
So, sometimes words are not loud enough,
Silence is louder.
Like an olive vine, 100 years in growth, silently, before it shouts its fruit into the world. Silently.
July 24, 2015 at 2:11 pm
I wish someone would do this with me, just talk and talk and help me not feel so lonely. But I’ve been alone for so long, and don’t know anyone that would help me.
August 17, 2015 at 12:48 am
Same here. 🙂
Sophiopath Hughes (@flamegurl2113) says
July 25, 2015 at 12:57 am
Kind of cool 247 http://t.co/WVORFpBECy via @depressioncomix
Natália Guimarães says
July 25, 2015 at 9:34 pm
This is true love ♡
August 2, 2015 at 8:10 am
This is wonderfully heartwarming. We all should find a relative or friend that will do this for us.
x² (@xquadrat) says
August 15, 2015 at 3:13 am
So sweet… <3 http://t.co/fvw7y3trpp via @depressioncomix
Katherine Devonshire (@KitKatKnitter) says
August 16, 2015 at 3:24 am
August 18, 2015 at 1:23 am
<3 http://t.co/zjDFB3uZPi via @depressioncomix
December 2, 2015 at 5:34 am
When I was dating my ex, we would skype in the evenings. When she was having a bad night I would talk to her or sing her to sleep. It’s nice to know I wasn’t alone.
January 14, 2016 at 6:28 am
Sometimes it can mean everything just to have someone on the other end <3
November 8, 2016 at 1:38 am
This is lovely… I wish people would do this for me too. Yeah
April 23, 2018 at 1:03 am
still the best ever couple of this webcomic! very cute! nice and sweet
August 29, 2018 at 12:15 am
My friend does that for me too. She’s so caring and perfect.
I’m driven to feel like shit that I’m taking all this time and energy out of her, and for what? But she made me promise that I would not turn her kindness into these kinds of things and I try to keep it. Trying to forbid my thoughts from going there for too long and think of something else instead.
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