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Feeling like sh*t without knowing why. And also: feeling like sh*t knowing very well that you have no apparent reason to feel like sh*t. Been there, done that.
I’ve never understood the “don’t know why” you feel like crap. You don’t feel like crap for no reason. There is ALWAYS a reason. Even if you can’t articulate it. So its not, “no reason”. Its something that just can’t be put into words. I suppose that I might be one of the luckier people with depression in that I usually know why I’m upset and feeling lousy. Or even if I don’t know, the reason will usually present itself shortly enough.
One of the common symptoms of depression is that deep feeling of dread or sadness without a discernable or logical cause. Many people on the Tumblr and Facebook mirrors feel similar so I assume that the feeling described in the comic is not unusual.
Wouldn’t the reason be that you have clinical depression or some other issue?
I try to clarify the difference between sad and depressed but I often can’t get other people to understand. For me “depression” is very physical (weight pressing on my head and chest) along with all the negative thoughts (better off without you, graphic thoughts or visions of suicide or self harm) and all that of course. When I am “sad” I may feel the same way but there is a fairly clear reason, there is something that caused it and for me that is better sometimes. There are of course times when I can’t tell the difference because everything gets mixed up, and it seems my mind wants to attach bad feelings to an tangible event so I end up thinking I am disproportionately upset about some minor thing.
Personally, I feel sad when something bad happens then I know why I’m sad. On the other hand everything in my life can be going fantastic and falling into place perfectly and I still feel depressed. That’s when I don’t know why I’m sad, it’s probably a chemical imbalance but I don’t know.
it’s a cycle, there are so many little reasons lost in your past that you don’t know when it started, and most of them (if you remember them at all) don’t seem significant enough to cause it. So you feel like shit, and you don’t know why.
I’m sorry Sam, but there’s not always a reason. For many people the only reason to feel sad or get depressed is that they have some (personality) disorder or imbalance that makes them sad or depressed for no reason. If you include that, sure you’re right, there’s always a reason… but that doesn’t help you much further and is the same as saying there is no reason.
Sometimes the reason is that you have a low level of certain neurotransmitters in your brain. It’s not caused by anything that anyone has done or any external event, nor is it some kind of character flaw. A person can be genetically predisposed to having depression or other mental illnesses.
I don’t think that the majority of cases are chemical imbalance. No small number of people go through hellish challenges with no reward at the end. Chronic physical illness, financial woes, anxiety disorders, isolation, ostracization, and perceptions (real or not) of being unwanted, unloved, useless, a burden, a failure, ugly, etc. are all reasons. Often there is more than one reason, and there is a perception that the problems are intolerable and unresolvable. There is a high amount of pressure from society to accomplish certain things, (high paying career, house, wife, kids) that not everyone is able to do, and such conditioning can be so strong that it becomes destructive (people must perceive me as a failure).
When you think about this, it’s actually quite normal to feel depressed under these circumstances. Anyone facing such never ending hardships are bound to end up depressed.
I think the biggest mistake most people make is assuming the negative thoughts are a result of, rather than an intermediary cause of, depression. They hear the negative self talk, and don’t remember the million things that happened to them over the course of their life that made them think this way.
This comic really moved me. So much truth in so few words. Very powerful.
http://t.co/hrJsdOL3Hx
Exactly this – also for whatever thoughts are going through the head at night. Can’t just write them down as they will still be there in the morning as have no idea what they are
It really does..
Either we don’t know or we don’t have an answer that doesn’t seem like an excuse.